Monday, September 23, 2013
Love is more
On Friday, I learned our store still would not be opened for the weekend. Well, at this point, I'll be more surprised when we actually open so for Saturday I planned to enjoy one of my last free weekend days writing. That is after I got a hair cut, which given I wear my hair naturally in an afro shouldn't take long, right? There's only one hitch: I don't drive. That means I usually ask my dad to drive me to my barber.
It seems this Saturday my parents were in a middle of a spat so my father shows up in a bad mood. When he arrives, he complaines there's no gas in the car because my mother says they'll get some later. My mother also has errands to run. My father is in a bad mood. He can't figure out what to do about all the errands he has to run. The clock is ticking while he deliberates. It gets better. I'll spare you the long version and say that I spent from late morning to early evening with my parents.
Saturday night, I went shopping with my youngest daughter for groceries. Once home, I made her a healthy smoothie and dinner, and we made plans for her to come by for cooking lessons and food for the week.
A day of writing had come and gone. Not a line keyed. Nonetheless, on my path to simpler living, I'm gaining real experience at remembering my priorities, being open to circumstances and practicing acceptance. A minimalist lifestyle is about focusing on what matters. Family matters even when they wear me out.
On Sunday, my daughter who cares for foster children called asking for book recommendations. Oh yeah! For a few years, I was an active YA book blogger and that venture was born out of my work with girls at a non-profit. I was more than happy to talk books. Oh, and I failed to mention that an anecdote I wrote about working with my girls, the writing life and the stories we all have, took first place among peers in a writing challenge.
Decluttering your life isn't just about less stuff. It's about less emotional baggage, less time-consuming activities, more time to spend with those you love.
Love is more.