Monday, September 2, 2013
Give a little lovin'
Yesterday was DH's birthday. It was suppose to be his day but I blew it- again. He asks very little. My guy isn't needy. Every year I ask if he'd like to go out or can I buy him a present. He says no. I ask what he'd like to do. He says it doesn't matter. All he ever wants is homemade cake. Sounds simple enough, right? Here's the problem: I don't bake. I don't cook. He does. Does it very well.
I made him a cake one year. He swears it was cupcakes. I say cake. He didn't like it. I tried. I read the directions a thousand times, sweated and almost cried making that disaster. His response, “How hard could it have been?” He didn't want a box cake. He wanted one from scratch. Did I say I didn't cook, don't bake? Can you imagine cooking for your mate if you're married to Jacques Peppin?
So yesterday, I made him breakfast. Stupid me. How did I forget how ugly last year was because I didn't make a cake?
What does this have to do with minimalism? Plenty. Minimalism isn't just less stuff. It's putting effort into the things you value like your relationships. I'm failing at the moment. This morning feeling deflated, frustrated and guilty, and not having written this week's installment, I hopped over to Be More With Less for some inspiration and guidance. Zeroed in on Courtney's mini-missions, and found my well. I read Love More Deeply. If you want to recharge your efforts in relationships, I highly recommend you join me in the challenge.
Today, I commit to learning to cook, to learn to bake my man a cake. Today, I remember how much his feeding me love on a plate means to me. I commit to reciprocating. Today I commit to feeding him.
In what ways do you express love in your relationships? Do you need to step up, do better? No judgement. Just support.
More later. I”m off to find a cooking class.